Author Archives: John Kenny

I have written some articles recently about the various reasons why we may find it hard to find a committed relationship and one of those reasons is a fear of intimacy. This is not a flaw in your character. It … Read More

In part one I briefly introduced Debra and her destructive relationship patterns and explained Bowlby’s attachment theory. One of the reasons that these patterns exist is because of her attachment style. Here I will delve into this further with some … Read More

What to expect when you try and ‘Grey Rock’ When you use Grey Rocking with a narcissist or someone toxic, you will no doubt, get a reaction. As mentioned in part one – you never tell anyone that you are … Read More

I have worked with several people recently who have decided it is time to start dating again. This is a brief list of things to avoid when we get back on the dating train based on their experiences of past … Read More

Is there is a narcissist or toxic person in your life and you have little choice but to interact with them? That actually walking away and having no contact just isn’t possible, or for your own reasons you have chosen … Read More

A question that I hear a lot when I am discussing unhealthy relationship patterns is ‘why am I always attracted to toxic people?’ or ‘why are toxic people attracted to me?’ You may have read lots of books on the … Read More

1.Know what you want – one of the most common questions I ask my clients that gets an ‘I don’t know’ reply is ‘what do you want?’ We are driven by need and we need to know what we want, … Read More

When you take the time to reflect on your relationships from the past (or even look at the one you are in now), here are some things to recognise that they were toxic/unhealthy and what you can learn from them: … Read More